When I first thought of starting this project, I reached out to straight women who have dated bisexual men through an amazing site called HARO. The responses I got were pretty phenomenal, it seemed that women all had different opinions ranging from the extreme positive to the absolute negative, and at times somewhere in between. Some of these women will be featured in the documentary; however, I am posting their responses in anonymous fashion to protect their privacy (since not everyone will be in the documentary) and to keep the suspense for when you finally get to see the doc!

I’ll be posting responses like this every Monday under the theme of “Monday Anthologies.” Hope you enjoy and be sure to leave your comments.

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The last 6 months of my life have been life-changing, ideology-breaking, and mentally transforming. And if you asked me in June 2009, if I would be speaking to other women and making a documentary about dating/being in relationships bisexual men, I probably would have laughed and told you “No, not my path, not my thing.” To start:

I fell in love (unknowingly) with a bisexual man

I just want to put that out there, so all of you reading are aware and know where I am coming from. And, just to be up front, my academic education has focused in Gender & Sexuality, which definitely has influenced the way that I have processed the situation.

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The Director must be crazy. Only insane people would think to do a documentary on straight women who have experienced relationships with bisexual men. Yes, the topic is real and the women are out there, ready to tell their stories. In fact, we are stocked for at least the next month with stories to tell. Everything on this blog comes from real people with real experiences. We only change the name for privacy purposes.

There will be no holding back in the film or on this blog. From the sex to the conversations, you will hear it all.

Brace yourselves…we look forward to having this journey with you.

TBP Editors

Yes, after 3 months of research, self-reflection, and finding enough power within myself to shape my ideologies on African-American male bisexuality and the down low phenomenon, I produced a 22 page thesis paper surrounding African-American female voices in the media on these imperative issues. From my own experiences, I have to admit that this semester has been a growing period for me. Between falling in love with a bi-guy, self-maneuvering within that personally awkward situation, and finally experiencing a real life example of the Gender & Sexuality discourse I have studied in undergrad, I realized that none of us will ever understand the complexities of sexuality. The more labels we put on it, the more social categories we confine ourselves to, and the more that each of us claims to have the answer only digs us deeper into a hole of social ignorance. I hope my thesis contributes to a larger conversation surrounding bisexuality, homosexuality, and heterosexism within the African-American community. Truly, I’m not claiming to have all the answers, but I definitely feel I have some new talking points to add.

Moreover, throughout this writing process and my own quest for understanding in my life, I realized that yes, it is possible to be biphobic and not necessarily homophobic in regulating what I desire in a “heterosexual” relationship with a man. I also recognized how contradicting that stance can be. Although my thesis has been submitted to my amazing professor and NYU’s Social & Cultural Analysis Department, I plan to edit it before releasing it for publication. When I do, all of you will be the first to read.

Thank you to everyone for all of your support and love during 2009. Looking forward to a beautiful 2010 with all of you wonderful, insightful individuals.

Until my return from Egypt

Arielle